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Do You Sometimes Feel Defeminized By Cancer?

Does this sound like a loaded question or what? I think it’s a very interesting one, and it’s one I have been thinking about for a long time. Cancer changes things. It just does. One day I was trying to make a list of areas of my life that have not been impacted by cancer, and I couldn’t come up with much to put on my list. So again, cancer changes things. Does it change everything? Well, maybe not everything, but it comes pretty darn close, or at least it feels like it on some days, right? (more…)

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Cancer Was Not a Gift & It Didn't Make Me a Better Person

Ten Goals for My Memoir

In this post, I want to share the goals I have for my memoir, Cancer Was Not a Gift & It Didn’t Make Me a Better Person: A memoir about cancer as I know it. I don’t have a ton of goals, but I have some. One goal I do not have is to be on the New York Times Best Sellers List. Whew, that takes a lot of pressure off. Just kidding. But seriously, I do have some goals that are important to me and I hope they are important to some of you, my dear readers, as well. (more…)

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Breast Cancer’s Impact On Sexuality, a Research Opportunity

As many of us know all too well, a cancer diagnosis affects a person’s life in just about every conceivable area, including your sex life. Any kind of cancer does this, of course, but breast cancer adds another whole dimension to this conversation for obvious reasons. After all, sex and breasts, is it even possible to have a conversation about one without the other? Maybe. Maybe not. There are so many side effects from treatment to contend with, many directly impacting your sex life. Are you nodding your head yet? (more…)

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The Reminder

Do you ever feel like you’re the reminder, the reminder of cancer? Do you sometimes wonder if your family and friends see you and then immediately think cancer thoughts? Sometimes I feel this way. One of those people I do not like reminding at all about cancer is my dad. He needs no reminders; he remembers far too much. But whenever I visit him, there I am, the reminder daughter. I don’t like being the reminder, the reminder of cancer. I wonder if he thinks about my mom and cancer whenever he sees me now. (more…)

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Stomp Out BC, Mets Monday & Hashtags

I know I mentioned in my last post that in my next one, I would be sharing some tips on how to build up one’s body image and self-image post cancer diagnosis, but that will have to wait. I just returned from a wonderful visit with dear daughter and dear son-in-law in sunny California (gosh, that was a nice beak for so many reasons) and learned there was an event called Stomp Out BC Monday planned for today. Read more about it here and watch a video here. I am super excited about this event and decided I just had to write a post about it today. How could I not? The self-image post will be up tomorrow, so stay tuned.  (more…)

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