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Getting Past the Fear: A Guide to Help You Mentally Prepare for Chemotherapy

Getting Past the Fear:  A Guide to Help You Mentally Prepare for Chemotherapy

It’s been three years since I started chemo. Even now, July represents chemo month to me. Of course July represents many other and mostly summery things as well, but the memory of chemo is permanently branded into my mind’s registry of summer memories. That July three years ago was part of the summer that wasn’t.

The day I learned chemo was in my near future was a truly horrible day. The thought of willingly introducing toxic poisons into my body was terrifying, but not doing it was even more so. I felt completely cornered. I felt I had lost control of an awful lot and I realized there was more loss to come.

Mostly, I was afraid.

Hubby and I searched for resources to prepare ourselves for the unknowns of chemo. I remember the day we headed for our local book store and as I meandered down the medical aisles trying to appear nonchalant about paging through books about chemo, I knew I was a complete fraud; in reality I was terrified.

When I finally made my selection, I quickly handed it over to dear hubby and begged asked him to please pay for it. I couldn’t even bring myself to go through the checkout line. That would be admitting I had cancer. That would be admitting I was about to face chemo. I couldn’t bring myself to do it. This alone tells you a bit about my state of mind at that time.

The book I purchased that day was a good one, but still it wasn’t what I was really looking for.

I couldn’t find that one.

What was I looking for?

I wanted to know more than just what to expect regarding side effects and such.

Sure, I wanted to know what to eat, what not eat, how to handle nausea, things to call my oncologist about, how to deal with diaherrea/constipation, fatigue, flushing and mouth sores – all that stuff.

But more than that, I wanted to know how to get my mind ready.

I wanted to feel more emotionally prepared before starting. Even though I knew everyone’s experience is different, I still wanted to read about it from someone who had been there. The physical/medical angle was covered; in some ways that was the “easy” part of preparation.

I wanted to read about the nitty-gritty reality side of things from someone who understood my fear about starting chemo.

I never found that resource.

I knew there were others out there in the same position. I knew there were others out there facing chemo. I knew there were others out there feeling afraid.

I knew I was not alone.

That’s how my book, Getting Past the Fear:  A guide to help you mentally prepare for chemotherapy came about.

From the start, I knew what I wanted my book to be like and I knew what I wanted to cover in it.

First and foremost, I wanted my book to be the next best thing to sitting down with a friend who’s had chemo for a face-to-face chat about what the experience was really like. I also knew it had to be a quick and easy read for minds being flooded with thoughts of cancer and impending chemo.

Here are some of the topics I cover in my book:

  • Processing through the news you need chemo and acknowledging your true feelings

  • How to cope with losing your hair (not losing your hair is also addressed)

  • How to buy a wig IF you choose to buy/wear one

  • Questions to ask your oncologist before starting chemo

  • Why you should consider journaling and how to get started

  • What to expect on your first chemo day

  • Tips for taking care of yourself

  • Tips for tending to your partner’s needs

  • Looking forward

My hope is that all who read Getting Past the Fear will be able to face chemo for the first time feeling a bit more empowered and a bit less fearful.

Is it really possible to get past the fear?

Probably not, but sometimes a little bit of help makes all the difference in the world.

Have you undergone chemo or do you know someone who has/is?

How did you (or she/he) feel before beginning?

What’s your favorite resource about chemotherapy?

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NOTE:  Getting Past the Fear is now available in print! Click here or on the image below to buy.

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Getting Past the Fear

Christine

Tuesday 15th of April 2014

Nancy, I have read the list of winners of your new book and was so glad to see my name listed. I so much look forward to receiving your book and sharing it with others. Today I met two people and one of them was starting chemo for the first time and we will be sharing a chemo chair together tomorrow. I look forward to share your book with her and passing it on to others that may need it. I will send them to your site for the download version and purchase also. This is the perfect book prior, during and also for folks like myself doing it again. Anytime you start this treatment fear is there and needs to be address. Thank you again for your blog and for your book. You are making a difference in this struggle.

Nancy

Tuesday 15th of April 2014

Christine, Thank you so much for your kind words. It means a lot to me to hear that you'll be sharing my book with others new, or even not new to chemo. I really appreciate the fact you have interest in reading it, too. It's not like you're new to chemo. I hope you find a few useful tips in there. Let me know. Thanks for participating in my giveaway!

Lorie

Tuesday 6th of August 2013

This is a great resource for all the women out there who will undergo or are already undergoing chemo. I know someone who is undergoing the procedure and I believe this book would be very helpful to her. Thank you for sharing your thoughts, experiences, and for reaching out to women to help them get past their fear. I agree with what you said that it may not be possible to totally get past the fear (or not feel fear at all) but a little bit of help makes all the difference in the world. Thanks for the wonderful post, Nancy!

Nancy

Tuesday 6th of August 2013

Lorie, Reading your comment made my day, Lorie. Thank you!

Beth Gainer

Thursday 1st of August 2013

Your e-book is fantastic. Like you, I was scared. I swore up and down that I would not allow myself to be subjected to chemo.

And somehow I got through it, but if I had your book, I would've felt better, less scared, I think.

Nancy

Friday 2nd of August 2013

Beth, Thank you. I'm glad you liked it and I appreciate your review very much.

Lindsay

Tuesday 30th of July 2013

I'm sure your ebook, like your blog, has really made a difference for people facing chemotherapy. I like how honest and straightforward the book is. It is also helpful for friends and family members of people with cancer. Sometimes we aren't sure what to expect either.

Nancy

Wednesday 31st of July 2013

Lindsay, Yes, it's always been my hope that family and friends would find both my blog and my ebook helpful because as you well know, a cancer diagnosis affects the whole family and sometimes friends too. Thanks for commenting.

Maria Fowler

Sunday 28th of July 2013

Also, How can I add my photo to my profile?

Thanks for the post.

Nancy

Monday 29th of July 2013

Maria, You can add your photo by getting going to http://en.gravatar.com/ Hope that helps. Thanks!