Remembering Lisa Bonchek Adams – & a Certain Purple Bloom

Like so many others, I was deeply saddened to learn about the recent death of Lisa Bonchek Adams. I was also caught a bit off guard. I had read her recent Facebook page post in which she stated, “Things are quite, quite serious…”, but yet I thought she had more time; after all, things had been quite serious for Lisa for months, no, for years. Maybe it’s just that I hoped she had more time. But it was not meant to be. (more…)

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Marking Time Again – Seven Years

Seven years have now passed since my mother died from metastatic breast cancer. I choose to mark time here on the blog each March not because I am looking for sympathy, but because I want to continue talking about the lives taken by  breast cancer, not just my mother’s life, but all of them. I mark time to honor not only my mother, but all women and men who have died from this wretched disease. And sadly, there are many. Too many. (more…)

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Just As They Were…

When I go home to visit my dad, it still feels different without my mom there. It’s been almost seven years now since my mother died from metastatic breast cancer, so you’d think her presence, or rather her lack of physical presence, wouldn’t still be such a palpable thing. But it is. I am, of course, more used to how the house looks, feels and smells with her no longer there. I call it my dad’s house now, not my parents’ house, not mom and dad’s house, not grandpa and grandma’s house. Most of the time these days, I feel I’m doing a decent job of carrying on as a daughter without a mother. I never forget of course, but I have learned how to handle my life without a mother in it. Or I think I have. (more…)

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A Guest Post by Mary Landberg, Author of “Enduring Love,” & a Giveaway!

November is National Hospice and Palliative Care Month, so the timing is perfect for me to feature a guest post from Mary Landberg, author of Enduring Love:  Inspiring Stories of Love and Wisdom at the End of Life. Mary is a hospice RN and she has incorporated her love of photography into her hospice work by taking photographs during as Mary calls it, this sacred time in her patients’ lives. One regret I do have about the time when my mother was dying, is that we did not take photographs. Yes, I have memories from those days that I will carry with me always, but I do wish I had that one photo…


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Death with Dignity – My Thoughts on Brittany Maynard’s Decision

I’m sure by now most of you have heard or read the news story about Brittany Maynard, the young woman who decided to end her own life before her devastating terminal brain cancer would end it for her. In case you haven’t heard about it, you can read some of her story here. There has been some controversy surrounding her decision to end her own life, but mostly I’ve read and heard supportive commentary about her very personal and way beyond just difficult decision. Of course, the Vatican came out strongly opposing her decision, but that was to be expected. (more…)

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