I Wasn’t There…

March can still stir up lots of emotions for me. It’s the month my mother died from metastatic breast cancer. I shared about my experience being a caregiver to my mother during her illness and death from metastatic disease in my memoir. I also shared about the fact I was not there during her final moments and how I felt about that. I was, and still am, mostly okay about this. We did not leave things unsaid. I felt, and still feel, at peace about our time spent together at the end of her life and during her whole life for that matter. But still… (more…)

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Marking Time Again – Eight Years

It’s now been eight years since my mother died from metastatic breast cancer. She died on March 6, 2008. She was initially diagnosed (early stage, ER+) in February 2004. Her cancer “officially” metastasized in late fall of 2007. A few months later she was gone. I’ve been marking time here on the blog for the last few years not because I look for pity or sympathy or anything at all. I mark time because #wewillnotforget. (more…)

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Cancer Was Not a Gift & It Didn't Make Me a Better Person

Exposing Metastatic Breast Cancer & Advocating for Change

As I mentioned in my previous post, I have a bunch of goals for my memoir. One of my primary goals is to further expose metastatic breast cancer for what it is – horrible, deadly, under-discussed and massively under-funded. I chose to candidly share about my family’s experience with metastatic breast cancer in my memoir, Cancer Was Not a Gift & It Didn’t Make Me a Better Person:  A memoir about cancer as I know it, because too often metastatic disease is not talked about at all, and there is not nearly enough money dedicated to research specific to metastatic disease.  (more…)

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Saying Goodbye to a Dear Old Dog

When the life of a dear pet nears its end, you often hear it said that you will know when it’s time. You will know when it’s time to do the right thing. You will know when it’s time to let them go. You will know when it’s time to euthanize. I’m not so sure this is always true. Sometimes it’s a tough call. Sometimes you have to make the tough decision even when you don’t know for sure if, in fact, it’s time. Sometimes you just have to do the best you can. Sometimes there aren’t clear-cut answers. Death doesn’t work that way. (more…)

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