If You Had a Crystal Ball, Would You Take a Look?

Here we are almost a week into the New Year already. During the holidays, I spent some lovely time with my family, and I hope you did too. It’s time for me to get back to writing and a lot of other things as well.

When I don’t write, I sure do miss it; so I’m delighted to be back at it, some of that other stuff, not so much. So here’s my first blog post of the New Year!

Every year, of course, brings with it a blend of good things and not-so-good things. Some years are way out of balance; 2010 was a year like that. For me, that was cancer diagnosis year, brca+ revelation year, chemo year, bald year, beginning of reconstruction year and so on. Lots and lots of unpleasant stuff. I did start blogging and writing in general more that year – definitely two good things, among others of course. But as life goes, a balanced year it was not.

2011 and 2012 were pick-up-the-pieces years for me. Lots of learning and lots of adapting went on and continues still. Those were re-set years as I tried to re-establish some kind of balance in my life. Or as some call it, finding your “new normal”.

Don’t get me started on that one… And no, I have not yet found it. And yes, I’m still picking up the pieces.

2013 brought lots of exciting changes within my family, but sticking to the cancer front, I think I finally came to the realization that surviving survivor-ship is a whole lot harder than it’s cracked up to be.

All that “pinking of breast cancer” is partly to blame for what could almost be construed as the normalization/glamorization/trivialization of breast cancer that continues to go on…

Nothing about breast cancer is normal or simple, including surviving survivor-ship.

Pink propaganda? Yeah, there’s an idea for a future post.

It was made crystal clear to me in 2013 that I have side effect issues from cancer treatment that will likely be with me from here on out. I’m still NED though, so bottom line is, I try not to complain too much or too loudly, though I won’t be silenced either.

Again, it’s about balance.

What will 2014 bring?

Who knows, right?

I’ve been wondering though, if you could know right now what 2014 has in store for you, would you want to know?

Have you ever wished you had that crystal ball which would allow you to look into your future?

If you did, would you take a peek?

Sometimes, we dream about what it might be like to know what the future has in store for us, or least I have. Sometimes I think knowing what lies ahead would be really wonderful; sometimes not so much…

Regardless, 2014 is upon us. Undoubtedly, there will be new challenges for each of us and most of us will face them as best we can. And most of us will strive toward finding that elusive balance as well. I certainly plan to.

In 2014, I hope the scales tip heavily toward the good side of things that life brings your way.

I hope 2104 is kind to you and your family.

I hope 2014 is kind to us all.

Wishing you all a wonderful New Year!

If you had a crystal ball, would you want a glimpse into your future?

What will be one of your challenges in the New Year?

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If you had a crystal ball for the New Year, would you take a look?

29 thoughts to “If You Had a Crystal Ball, Would You Take a Look?”

  1. Not sure if I would have the courage to look in a crystal ball, but I sure hope 2014 is a good year. I need one.
    2011 – found symptom of cancer – thought it was just a rash as there was no lump.
    2012 – diagnosis, chemo, laid off from job EXACTLY at beginning of chemo (to avoid paying me disability maybe?), mastectomy, radiation
    2013 – recurrence to spine, new grandbaby, radiation, brother’s death, finally NED
    2014 – so far – disability finally approved with back pay, reconstruction scheduled
    See, I’m hoping for a better year. Except for the grandbaby, the last two years have been pretty bad.

  2. If I could pick a ‘super power,’ seeing the future would not be what I would pick. I think it would be nice to be able to fly or to find lost items by getting them to find me rather than the opposite (can’t tell you how many times I’ve had to use my landline to call my cellphone when I’ve misplaced it!!). But after some of the tribulations I’ve survived in my life, cancer being only one of them, I think if we could see the future, we might get a bit too discouraged to go there.

    I know I must be feeling better because I am making plans now. So, my faith in the future has been restored, always knowing those plans could go awry, but making them anyway.

    Here’s to plans and dreams coming to fruition for us both. Love to you, dear one. xoxo, Kathi

    1. Kath, I’m glad to hear your faith in the future is being restored a bit anyway. That’s the thing with cancer, it really does a number on your planning capabilities. I don’t think I’d like to see into the future entirely either, but gosh, if I had that crystal ball, I’d probably take a look… Thank you for commenting. Here, here to those plans and dreams my friend.

  3. Hi Nancy – I WOULD look, which is why I’m glad we don’t have a crystal ball into the future. I’d rather be forced to try and take each day as it comes so that I can live more in the here and now. Happy 2014 – let’s hope it’s a happy and healthy one for all of us.

    1. Claudia, I probably would look too… good thing we can’t, right? Cancer or no cancer, one day at a time probably works out best for us all. And yes, hoping for happiness and healthiness as well. Thanks for chiming in.

  4. Nancy, if I’d known what was going to happen in my version of 2013 – well, I don’t know if I could have survived, or even if I’d have wanted to survive. so no, I much prefer the chance I have to take things one day at a time. it’s hope and gratitude that’s keeping me afloat, and I would never trade either of those for a crystal ball. I much prefer working with my three little words – resilience, grace, and reinvention to see where they take me in 2014.

    I wish you and all of us much love and light to help us find our way,

    Karen xoxo

    1. Karen, Yes, it would have been too awful to know what was in store for you… one day at a time is enough when facing huge challenges of life. Sometimes one hour at a time… You are a wonder. You are! I like your three words for 2014. I would say you are already doing a pretty good darn job regarding living with/by those words. Love and light back… I do hope 2014 is extra kind to you.

  5. I’m absolutely terrible at picturing the future in terms of movie-like snap shots. But I like to try and feel it. So 2014 feels . . . It feels like a wide open space waiting to be coloured in. I’d like to colour it with happiness, love and freedom. That would be great. And success. We need some wins. 🙂

  6. Congratulations, Nancy, on being NED! I like to have warnings about the future so I can prepare… I think doing a vision board, if done in a contemplative manner, gives hints at what is coming. I like having those hints because when things happen they aren’t as shocking.

    1. Heidi, Now that’s an interesting concept – hints of what’s to come. Maybe that would be better. I don’t know. Guess it’s not like we get a choice anyway is it? Thank you for sharing your insights. Much appreciated.

  7. Interesting question. I think I would rather live day by day. But it made me think about BRCA testing, as a cloudy crystal ball with only predictions and not true sight… Given that I did choose to be tested, after my Mother”s diagnosis with both breast and ovarian cancer and without any cancer yet myself, I must want to know that much.

    1. Linda, Interesting perspective. I hadn’t really thought about this question from the BRCA standpoint. I guess those of us who have been tested have had a glimpse into, as you called it, a cloudy crystal ball – imperfect for sure, but… Thanks for adding such an intriguing angle to this discussion.

  8. Nancy,

    I would not want to look. I just want to live in the present, as I tend to over worry about the future. I don’t want to know the future. It makes life more exciting not to know, also.

    1. Beth, Good for you! I don’t think I’d be able to resist looking. Will power isn’t my strong suit. ha. Thanks for reading and commenting, Beth.

    1. Beth, I know. What is it about odd-numbered years? Well, except maybe for 2015, that’ll be another easy-to-roll-off-the-tongue one for me. Guess counting by 5s works too. ha.

  9. I think I’d want to look if I could just because my curiosity would get the best of me. If I knew what was ahead, I might make better decisions. Nancy, like you, I went through the gamut of treatment in 2010 and am not too happy about the lingering effects, and definitely not the ones that have made a permanent home in my body.

    1. Eileen, My curiosity would get the better of me too. You add another angle there, could we alter the future with better choices/decisions? Interesting thoughts as always, Eileen. Thank you.

  10. Nancy, I love the challenges you pose for the new year, the questions, the dilemmas.

    I wouldn’t want to know what is going to happen to me in 2014. Living from scan to scan is the “normal” for me now, and that’s as far as I want to foresee. Contemplating treatment failure and ultimately hospice is not a hospitable place for my mind to wander to.

    My challenges for 2014? Budgeting the right amount of money for what I want to do versus the medical and travel expenses I’ll incur as I continue down this “road” of treatment to keep me alive. It’s a delicate balance of fun vs. essential treatment.

    I wish you and your family the happiest of new years, full of writing, excitement, good health, and fun adventures. XOX

    1. Jan, It’s wonderful to hear from you. Your challenges are great, but yet you meet them head on and with such grace. I marvel at how you manage. Wishing you good things in 2014, Jan. Thanks for reading and sharing.

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    Simple but very accurate info… Thanks for sharing this one.
    A must read post!

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