Okay, this one’s a ramble, a full-disclosure sort of post. More accurately, a let’s get a few things off my chest sort of post…You’ve been forewarned!
Every year on the blog’s birthday, I reflect on this blogging gig. The other day, I asked myself, is this my job now?
Is blogging/writing about cancer from a personal perspective a job anyone would want?
Umm…no. But here I am.
I still consider myself an educator at heart. For many reasons, I no longer stand in front of a classroom. As another new school year gets underway, I still feel wistful. I miss that sense of excitement and optimism about a fresh start. It’s a feeling like none other. I miss those kids. But that chapter is closed.
As I’ve mentioned before, when people ask me what I do now, things get uncomfortable. People start squirming when I mention I blog about cancer and grief and have written three books, all about cancer. Talk about a conversation clunker. I get it. I do. It is what it is.
But talking and writing about cancer or grief is NOT a downer, not to me anyway. Not talking about hard stuff, now that IS a downer.
Cancer causes havoc on every part of your life and your work life is certainly one of those parts, and a darn important part at that.
Some people keep working during treatment and beyond. Some don’t. Some can’t. Some change careers. Some are lucky to have partners to fall back on and, of course, others do not have that financial luxury.
Sadly, divisions exist in Cancer Land regarding work too. My friend Beth wrote a terrific piece about this called, Competing in Cancerland. It’s really good. Check it out.
Like we need more walls in Cancer Land, right?
I intend to further address cancer’s impact on careers here on the blog, as it’s such an important topic.
In this post, I wanna tell you a bit about my blogging experience thus far – how it’s evolved, my goals and answer a bothersome question I was asked once that’s always lingered. I’ll also address a change or two I’ve made and why I made them. And there’s that pesky blogger/writer pet peeve that’s been on my mind.
I aim to keep it real here too, so…
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Evolution of a blog, well, this one anyway
Starting a blog is a big undertaking, but so worth it.
It’s risky business putting yourself out there. Literally, out there. Especially when you’re an introvert like me. But I have no regrets. Blogging has been a real life line for me in more ways than one. I had no idea I’d find myself part of such an amazing community, and I am grateful for that community, which includes you, my Dear Readers, every day.
So, if you wanna start a blog, just start. Every voice matters, and there’s always room for one more.
If you’re interested, read my 20 Blogging Tips!
This blog has evolved into quite a collection of my ramblings.
This post is #588. Thus far, there have been 16,293 approved comments, which btw, are often way more interesting than what I write. I read every single comment and reply to as many as I can. Interestingly, I’ve only had to delete a handful due to extreme cussing and name calling.
After eight years, I’ve got a fair number of archived posts. Many are still relevant. Probably too many, as things in Breast Cancer Land haven’t changed as much or as fast as many of us would like.
About Those Changes – Why an email list?
If you’re a blogger who wants more readers (and who doesn’t?), I highly recommend sending out a weekly (or monthly) email or newsletter. I dragged my feet on this because it’s extra work, but so worth it.
Having your own email list puts you and readers in control. In my weekly emails, besides new posts and a couple still relevant archived posts, I also share articles that have been in the news, or that I think might be of interest to subscribers. Sometimes I share something personal, and I often bounce around ideas. I love my subscribers and always value their input.
I use Mailchimp. It’s an easy setup and free up to 2,000 subscribers. Don’t worry about how many subscribers you have. It takes a while to build a list of readers that truly want to read your posts. The ones that stick around are gems. Yes, gems. (If you’re one of those gems, thank you!)
Goals for the blog
My goals remain the same. Since day one, my goal has always been to talk candidly about my personal experiences with breast cancer and grief and whatever else I feel like writing about.
Breast cancer most definitely is not just a bump in the road or one year out of your life. Neither is grief.
But this blog is not just about my experiences. That would get boring pretty fast for everybody, including me! No, it’s about you, my Dear Readers, too.
Specifically, my main goals are to: Inform. Listen. Support others. Share and talk about hard stuff. Vent. Keep it real. Encourage. Never sugarcoat. And did I mention, never sugarcoat?
Of course, the goal nearest and dearest to my heart is to advocate for those dealing with metastatic breast cancer.
In year nine, I plan to keep the #MetsMonday Featured Posts going. The contributions so far have been great. Thank you, ladies! (If you want to be a contributor, let me know.)
There is one other goal that some people frown upon.
It’s secret reveal time!
I try to make a few bucks. After all, Dear Hubby and I have bills to pay. Hence, the addition of ads a while back.
It’s hard to admit this is a goal too. Why this is, I am not entirely sure. Okay, I do know. It’s about feeling judged by others. Kinda crazy so much judging happens even in the Cancer blogosphere.
And btw, if a blogger chooses not to have ads, that is totally fine. But that doesn’t mean she/he has higher standards, is more ethical or whatever else comes to mind.
I’m aiming to keep it real here too, so now on to that awkward question someone once asked me.
Why would anyone (meaning me) want to make money off breast cancer?
Well, I see it like this: I am not making money off breast cancer. That thought is repulsive to me too. (Think Pinktober.) I see it as making a living (okay, that’s a stretch, but you get my point) from writing.
Writing has value. Therefore, writers have value. And yes, bloggers are writers too.
And now do you wanna know about that blogging pet peeve I’ve been mentioning?
Here it is:
There are tons of sites out there looking for content. I don’t mean just cancer-related sites. But we all know there are plenty of those too. The annoying (to me) thing is, most of these sites want and expect free content. I get contacted about this all the time.
A couple years back, I decided enough. No more free content from this writer. (Unless it’s a special circumstance or I just want to do it.)
Again, writing has value. Therefore writers have value.
Writers and bloggers, you need to know and appreciate your value.
If you’re a writer (or a blogger), stop selling yourself short. If sites want your content, great! But it’s not wrong to ask for fair compensation for your work, if and when you want to.
Just because you are a writer/blogger with cancer as part of your resume, it does not mean you must be a writing martyr.
(I could write a whole post on this, but I’ll spare you. For now.)
And yes, writing/blogging is work. For me, it’s a full-time job now. Sure writing is therapeutic, but it’s also work. Sometimes the words just flow and other times, not so much.
A finished piece of writing you want your name associated with takes, you guessed it, work. And time. But it’s work I love. And when a reader reads a piece I’ve managed to hash out and shares that she/he appreciates it, well, that’s like icing on the cake. (And yeah, I know writers are supposed to avoid cliches. But once in a while, they’re fine.)
Still with me?
Whew! Thank you. I was worried no one would make it to the end of this one.
So, is blogging and writing about cancer my job now?
Maybe so. It’s a huge part of it anyway. And this is okay with me.
Am I letting cancer define me?
Hell, no.
But more on that another day.
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Claudia Schmidt
Wednesday 18th of September 2019
Great post, Nancy, and so relevant. For months at a time, I just don't feel like talking about, reading about or even remembering that I had breast cancer (although that's kind of hard, given all the weird side effects I have) and I've given a lot of time thinking about whether or not to just hang it up and stop writing about bc. But, then every once in a while, someone will respond to a post and tell me that I really helped them that day, and I decide to get back to it, because that's the reason I started it all in the first place anyway. So, I hear you. You're way better at me at sticking with it, and I always refer people to you because you have so much good info and are so consistent. Please keep it going, there is so much good info here for anyone who is diagnosed. You make a difference. xo
The Accidental Amazon
Thursday 27th of September 2018
Nancy, I so get it. I've been a writer for a long time, and sometimes I've gotten paid and sometimes I haven't. And I've gotten those invites, too, to "contribute," meaning "write for free," to sites that are certainly making money but don't pay most of their contributors. And I turn them down now mostly, but I did manage to get a contract out of one of them & got paid for a few articles. And then my editor changed, and no one wanted to pay me for my stuff anymore because they were getting it for free and/or they had to keep their full-time paid staff employed. So, oy. It was nice while it lasted.
I think we always write for ourselves first. We write because we need to explore and/or express something that's on our minds. And of course I know you know that the most universal subjects are the ones that are the most personal. And we're always our own toughest critics. We'll probably never run out of material either.
So, I hope we both keep writing. Glad you're still here. xoxo, Kathi
Nancy
Friday 28th of September 2018
Kathi, I know you get it. Too bad your editor changed because you were writing some great pieces for that site. I wish writers and bloggers would unite and just stop offering so many pieces without getting fair compensation, at least some of the time. That probably makes me sound bad, but I truly believe writing has to be valued more - all art, as Beth said, and that starts with valuing ourselves and therefore our writing too. Of course, you're right, first and foremost, most of us write for ourselves because we need to express ourselves. And you're so right - we are our own worst critics, for sure. Thank you for getting where I'm coming from. Keep writing, my friend.