Skipping the New Year’s Resolutions & Guide Words too!

I don’t do New Year’s resolutions anymore. I haven’t for years. I’m skipping them this year too. Making resolutions every year is so, well, so 25 years ago! I’ve pretty much been making the same ones for years and years anyway, so what’s the point? Perhaps you’ve made the same ones once or twice yourself:  lose weight, exercise more, eat less junk food, get more sleep, be more disciplined with my writing (among other things), get organized, blah, blah, blah…

Don’t get me wrong, I still very much care about these things, and I do still plan to work on all of them, plus a whole lot of other things. Also, I do greatly admire people who make and follow through with their New Year’s resolutions. Some people are very motivated by them. I’m just not one of those people.

I much prefer considering each day as a fresh start.

Sometimes even each hour.

(Does anyone remember that brick wall image from Weight Watchers® where you could ‘build’ your wall as you made it through each hour of the day?)

three guide words
My three guide words from last year.

And it’s funny, this year I am not even choosing those three guide words to ‘live by’. I decided I just don’t want to. I still like my chosen words from previous years. I don’t want new ones.

Maybe I have an accountability problem or something.

I’m done with resolutions. I’m done with guide words for now too.

This does not mean I don’t have goals. I do.

Goals feel less restrictive, more open-ended, offer more possibility and are way more forgiving, don’t you think? So again, yes, I have goals. Lots of them.

And this year I can’t wait to share my goals for my memoir. Those will be coming soon. And my mind keeps filling with ideas for new posts. Thank goodness for this safe place to share my thoughts and yours as well.

But for now, I’ll just say again, thank you for reading and following Nancy’s Point in 2015.

I’m happy and grateful to have you along for the ‘ride’ in 2016!


Do you do New Year’s resolutions?

Do you have guide words? (Share your post link if you posted about them or any New Year’s type post for that matter).

What’s one goal you have for the New Year?






12 thoughts to “Skipping the New Year’s Resolutions & Guide Words too!”

  1. Agree that goals beat resolutions. Resolutions somehow become projects that detach from me and become a show for others to see. Hey look! I’m still a functional person and can do things that aren’t important to me like they mattered:-) Maybe we could get buttons telling people we are fabulous enough without having to show off? Actually, that sounds mean and it’s early in the year yet.

    As for plans, our house needs fixing to make it more marketable and I like doing kind of stuff. That can be my unstructured exercise program and be good for our spirits. We moved here on a two year contract eight years ago and having a pile of cash in a house makes us feel stuck–especially if we can’t sell it.

    1. Scott, Resolutions do sound more like projects sometimes and usually they’re projects relating to fixing/changing ourselves, at least that was usually the case with me. Good luck with your house stuff. That sounds like a lot to take on, bu it’s always nice when a person is handy. I am not. At all. Happy New Year to you and yours.

  2. Hi Nancy! As you know, I don’t do resolutions. I don’t even have guide words although those sound way better. I am not a rebel…OK maybe a little bit. I’ve been struggling with things that remind me of being a “good student” of life or becoming what society expects me to be. I do however have goals and most of them are long-term. I can share a couple: 1) letting go of some level of control and 2) writing. Ah! And there’s this thing that I am obsessing about called “skydiving” — not sure if I’ll ever do it but I will start with indoor skydiving this year to see if it would be something I would want to do. I mean, I really want to do it but my mind goes crazy. I feel terrible talking about it because it puts me on a spot. Maybe that’s another reason I don’t like resolutions.

    I like what Scott said. In a way I also feel I have nothing to prove.

    As always, I look forward to reading more of your posts. xx

    1. Rebecca, I sort of figured you were not a resolution kind of gal and btw, I think being a bit of a rebel is a good thing. Thank you for sharing a couple of your goals. Those sound like good ones to me, especially that writing one ‘cuz I do love your writing. Good for you for thinking about skydiving, that is something I would never even consider! I’m too much of a coward. And too old. ha. I look forward to reading more of your posts this year too. xx

  3. I completely understand! Some years I want goals, some years guide words, and some years absolutely nothing!
    I never set resolutions …. They seem so big and vague and I never know how to evaluate them.
    I did set goals last year (for the first time in a while) and it helped me stay on task – a concrete list i could look at to remember what I wanted to do. Since my brain is a sieve, I definitely needed that.
    But i know it’s not for everyone. Its not even for people who do usually like it sometimes. I day, whatever works for you, is perfect! 🙂

    1. Brandie, I sort of fluctuate from year to year, too, I guess. I read your post about your goals from last year and how you met them, or not. I was very impressed. Personally, I still like the idea of every single day being a fresh start goal-wise because we’re always a work in progress, right? Thanks for reading and commenting. I remember one of your goals was to blog more often and comment on blogs more often! 🙂

  4. Hi Nancy,

    I really enjoyed this post! I also don’t do New Year’s resolutions (I don’t remember if I ever did). I think resetting each day (or even each hour) is a great concept. I also have goals, but I have to be careful to avoid being the Type A goal-driven person I tend to be. I evaluate and re-evaluate my goals throughout each year and the trick is keeping it from becoming an obsession. My post on my guide words this year was a surprise because I didn’t originally set out to write a post on those. They emerged while I was writing about my dad’s broken hip.

    Anyway, I’m wishing you a great 2016, and I can’t wait to read the posts you write this year. 🙂

    1. Beth, I’m glad you enjoyed the post. I don’t have those worries about being a Type A goal-driven person. ha. I guess we all approach the resolution, goal setting, guide word choosing or whatever thing a bit differently motivation-wise. And how we feel about them changes from year to year too. Wishing you all the best in 2016, too, and I look forward to reading more of your great posts. Thank you for being such a loyal supporter of my writing. It means a lot.

  5. Loved your new book and loved this blog! No resolutions for me. They have never added anything but misguided guilt for me. Even guide words are too much! Like you, I believe I was a pretty good person before before cancer, and the best way for me to live is to start each day with new goals for that day. Or like Beth said, every hour! It’s much more honest for me and positive instead of punitive. Keep writing and I’ll keep reading. Thank you, and Happy 2016 and today.✌️❤️ Linda

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