Did you make any resolutions or set any goals for the New Year? I did not. I have written about my resolution making avoidance before. And about goal setting. And the three words thing. I’ve tried them all. I have discovered none work for me. Perhaps I have accountability issues. Regardless, I’ve ditched them all.
This year the idea of stating a few simple affirmations appeals to me.
Will this work any better? Who knows.
What is an affirmation?
It’s a simple statement affirming something, duh…right?
This sort of thing seems way more appealing. Resolutions can be so restrictive. Usually they are all about fixing what’s wrong with us. Same old, same old, right?
So, what are my affirmations?
1. I will honor my grief.
I will give myself permission to do what I’m always suggesting others should do. Why is it sometimes so hard to follow your own advice anyway?
2. I will practice self-care.
This is a biggie and covers a lot of ground. But don’t you think its sounds so much kinder and less judgmental than saying, I will lose weight, exercise more, eat healthier, get organized or whatever? Practicing self care is so much broader. So much more forgiving, so much more gentle sounding. After all, showing compassion should start with yourself, right?
3. I will keep writing for the sheer enjoyment, fulfillment and overall benefit the process brings to me.
I need to write. I do. I feel better when I write. Specifically, I am thinking about starting a new book about grief. I will continue blogging weekly because this gives me structure and a deadline (remember, I’m a procrastinator). I intend to put together a few new ebooks in the coming months. I might even start journaling again. I will not worry about the number of readers or followers I have or do not have, or how many books I sell. I will write because I want to. Because writing helps me figure shit out. And there is nothing in the world like the feeling I get from helping others figure shit out, too, once in a while in the process.
4. I will let go of resentments.
Some people, some things bug the heck out of me, but I will not allow resentments to build and fester. But I will write about them if I want to.
5. I will strive to inspire others.
By this I do not mean I want others to look at me and say, oh look, she is so inspirational in what she says and does. No, not at all, but by sharing my cancer truths, opinions, fears, dreams or whatever, I hope to encourage others to do the same. I want others to realize it’s okay to ditch societal expectations regarding cancer, grief (or whatever) that bog us all down.
So there you have ’em, my five affirmations for 2017. Well, for now anyway ‘cuz I can change, delete, or add to them whenever I want. They’re mine after all.
Do you think you might like to give affirmations a try?
Regardless, may 2017 be kind to you. May it be kind to us all.